Let's face it when dealing with custody issues family is it! My experiences as domestic violence attorney has led me to being a prominent divorce Lawyer because of my aggressive and dominant courtroom nature. I understand what it's like to be in a courtroom with a victim as well as with a perpetrator of domestic violence.
Many times, in my cases, I may represent both sides and in the perpetrator side I must straighten them out with counseling, and I must get them into the right state of mind so they can parent and co-parent accordingly.
The victim in a domestic violence scenario man or woman has a different scenario as well. The victim in these cases is invariably frightened to work with the perpetrator in these cases.
Let’s face it, many times it is a false reporting perpetrator. Someone will make up a story to obtain the child, or claim that someone is violent, or that the other party is abusive and a terrible parent that may be using drugs or consuming too much alcohol. Many times, these are false allegations that lead to elimination of child custody (losing your child).
I must come in to straighten that out whether it be through my investigator or litigating the domestic violence. Whatever it is, it must be straightened out so that the “playing field” may be leveled out between the victim and the aggressor. In many cases I get my investigator involved to evaluate the truth from non-sense.
At the end of the day in these custody cases, everyone must realize that it is in the best interest of the child/kid and not what makes it best for one parent or the other. A parent must evaluate the situations and understand youth is for flourishment and parties need to work together for the child to one day be successful.
There are many areas of concern for divorce cases that I see:
1. The Largest impactor in many divorce cases is FINANCIALS. Many times, in a divorce there is a stay-at-home spouse. These cases typically have one of three characterized spouses – 1. The spouse that helped with everything, good parent, and now it is time for divorce. 2. The spouse that did everything, not a good parent, thus, divorce. 3. The spouse that never helped (floated) and wasn’t a good parent. In these situations, either side, it is my job to ensure we get the fairest financial equitable splitting (alimony/child support).
2. The next factor I see as in issue in a Divorce is Real Estate. In many of my cases there might be a family home, and likely a get-away home of some sort. In some cases, I even see real estate that has been hidden from the spouse. It is my job again to negotiate and fight for you to get the equitable splitting you deserve. Colorado is not a 50/50 equitable splitting state, and it is important that if one spouse over the other performs more for the family that they should obtain more equitable splitting. When it comes to Real Estate it is important to get appraisals because home values change over time, and it might lead to a better result in your case.
3. The third issue I see in divorce and custody cases is lying. As mentioned prior, many spouses will claim there has been domestic violence, drug abuse or use, alcoholism, and in many cases the “bad parent.” These adversely affect child custody and, in many cases, the equitable splitting in a case over financials, real estate, companies, etc.
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